Author: herlifenotyours

  • 3 ways to style // a black jumpsuit for Spring/Summer!

    Don’t forget to watch the video on Youtube!

    Most of my stuff is either thrifted or super old, so everything linked will be a dupe! Each item in the list is a link, so if you click the name of what you wanna find, it’ll take you to something similar (mostly on Amazon). Thanks for watching! 🙂

    Jumpsuit // old from Old Navy. Similar here

    Outfit 1. Date Night

    chain link earrings 

    strappy heeled sandals

    Outfit 2. Business Casual

    blazer

    flats

    tote bag

    Outfit 3. Grad Student Vibes

    cropped sweater vest 

    loafers 

    purse

    glasses

  • What to buy in the Sephora 2023 Spring Savings Event // SEPHORA product recommendations

    Good morning! Today is the day we’ve been waiting for at Sephora! I believe everything is on sale! Most importantly, for us financially conscious people, everything that is SEPHORA branded is 30% off from April 14- April 24. There’s another blog post with everything else (not Sephora branded) that I would recommend from the website. Check it out here!

    Skincare Recommendations

    Melting Cleansing Balm

    I’ve used this cleansing balm for about three years now, and it’s never broken me out or dried my skin out. It’s perfect for daily double cleansing, whether you’ve worn a full face of makeup or only sunscreen! Buy it here: Melting Cleansing Balm Cleanse + Balance – SEPHORA COLLECTION | Sephora

    Vitamin C Glow Serum

    I have an affinity for Vitamin C. It’s a part of my morning skincare routine and I use it religiously. I did a review on this particular one here, and there’s a demonstration of it on my YouTube channel here. 10/10 recommend. Buy it here: Ultra Glow Serum: Glow + Strengthen Vitamin C Serum – SEPHORA COLLECTION | Sephora

    Face Sheet Masks

    These are a great option when you want a quick glow on your skin, and you don’t wanna wear makeup that day. When I do sheet masks, I usually do them in the morning, and I layer some type of moisturizing serum underneath. These are an affordable, yet luxurious way to treat yourself. Buy it here: Face Masks Fruit & Plant Extracts + Hydrating Hyaluronic Acid – SEPHORA COLLECTION | Sephora

    Eye Sheet Masks

    Eye masks are a great way to nourish your under eyes at the end of the day. Thankfully, if you’re a busy person, you don’t have to sit down and let them soak in. You can move around while they’re on your face. So if you’re looking for a convenient way to brighten your under eyes, buy it here: Clean Eye Mask – SEPHORA COLLECTION | Sephora

    Makeup Recommendations

    Bright Future Gel Serum

    I use this concealer every day! In fact, when I first started my makeup, it was one of the first concealers I ever tried. The line includes colour correctors as well, which I own but I haven’t quite dabbled in yet. But overall, it’s creamy, long-lasting and worth the money. Buy it here: Bright Future Gel Serum Under Eye Concealer – SEPHORA COLLECTION | Sephora

    Best Skin Ever Foundation

    This used to be my everyday foundation when I wore full coverage foundation daily. It has a ton of shades to choose from, and while the undertones are hard to pick from, it matches my skin pretty well. I still have to blot when I wear it because I have mostly oily skin. I did a review on it last year on my YouTube channel. Buy it here: Best Skin Ever Liquid Foundation – SEPHORA COLLECTION | Sephora

    Micro-smooth Multitasking Baked Face Powder Foundation

    My mother is a big fan of this powder. It seems to smooth out her liquid foundation, without adding cake or too much shimmer. It’s basically undetectable on top of any foundation she’s tried. However, I would like to try it on its own during the spring. Either way, it looks beautiful on her skin. Buy it here: Microsmooth Multi-Tasking Baked Face Powder Foundation – SEPHORA COLLECTION | Sephora

    10-Hour Perfection Foundation

    While I haven’t used this foundation in a long time, I still love it. In my opinion, it provides more coverage than the best skin ever foundation. I love it for a night out or for a more elegant occasion. It lays beautifully on my skin and doesn’t highlight the texture when I haven’t exfoliated for a while lol. Buy it here: 10 HR Wear Perfection Foundation – SEPHORA COLLECTION | Sephora

    Matte Perfection Powder Foundation

    This is my current everyday foundation. I re-discovered it when I was going through my makeup and have been using it every day for a few weeks now. I have a video featuring it (and the rest of my everyday Spring makeup routine) here on my YouTube channel. It keeps my skin matte for about 4 hours before I need to blot. When I blot, not much of the foundation gets taken away. If I choose not to blot, my skin still looks healthy and smooth and I love it! Buy it here: Matte Perfection Powder Foundation – SEPHORA COLLECTION | Sephora

    Trio Contour Palette

    I bought this in the fall of 2022 and it hasn’t failed me yet. While I don’t use it daily, it is surprisingly dark enough to contour my face. The lightest shade I use as a highlighter, the medium shade I use as an under-eye setting powder and the darkest as a bronzer/contour. It makes makeup simple and easy to do. Buy it here: Trio Contour Face Palette – SEPHORA COLLECTION | Sephora

    Translucent Loose Setting Powder

    Now, this is one item that I’ve had for a while and haven’t used yet. I’m a bit of a makeup hoarder and I tend to purchase things when they’re on sale or when I think of a new routine I’d like to try. I do like a translucent powder for setting my under eyes though, and because I’ve used so many SEPHORA products, I really have no worries recommending this one. Buy it here: Translucent Loose Setting Powder – SEPHORA COLLECTION | Sephora

    Cream Lip Stain

    These are perfect for the hot summer days when you want to drink as much water as your lungs desire, but you don’t want to lose your lip colour. This stays. Period. It’s one of my favourite liquid lipsticks overall, and I love the fact that they come in non-traditional colours like forest green and bright violet. Buy it here: Cream Lip Stain Liquid Lipstick – SEPHORA COLLECTION | Sephora

    Hydrating Lipstick

    When I do wear lipstick, this is one of the ones I choose. It’s hydrating to the point where you don’t need a lip balm underneath it. The array of colours is perfect for every choice from simple to extravagant and the price entices you to buy as many as you want. Buy it here: Satin Hydrating Lipstick – SEPHORA COLLECTION | Sephora

    Rouge Gel Lip Liner

    This is a great lipliner for filling in your entire lips. I don’t tend to use it strictly for lining my lips because I find it’s a bit too soft to stay in place. I prefer a lip liner that mimics a normal No. 2 pencil, a little more rigid and less creamy. However, I still like it for a full lip colour. Buy it here: Retractable Rouge Gel Lip Liner – SEPHORA COLLECTION | Sephora

    LIPSTORIES Lipstick

    I remember when these first came out and how heavy the advertising was. The whimsical photos drew me in, I’m not gonna lie. And the fact that each lipstick told a ‘story’ was very enthralling. I bought festival lights, a shimmery bronze, and I haven’t looked back. Buy it here: #LIPSTORIES Lipstick – SEPHORA COLLECTION | Sephora

    Check out my Spring Makeup Routine on my Youtube channel and don’t forget to follow and leave a comment!

    https://youtu.be/BQAGYMcMs5Y

    xo,

    Trudi – Her Life

  • Spring 2023 Fashion Trends Already in Your Closet

    Spring everywhere else seems to be different from spring in Canada. Here, we’re still getting snow, and it’s still too cold for any (normal) people to leave the house without a coat. However, it doesn’t mean we can’t have a little fun with our wardrobe just the same. Here are a few spring trends of this year that you most likely already have in your closet.

    Head-to-toe Denim

    And when I say head-to-toe, I mean head-to-toe. I’m talking about the shirt, the purse, the bottoms and the shoes. If you have denim, now is the time to get the most out of it. If you don’t have the accessories, a nice pair of relaxed/oversized denim jeans in a mid-to-light wash will do. This trend, while a staple, always comes in different shapes and shades every season, so pick the ones you love and wear them out.

    Pops of Red

    Now, this is one of my top 3 favourite colours. I love a bright pop of red in an outfit. To incorporate it easily and affordably, you could simply do as I did and paint your nails red. If you’re looking for more pops, H&M has a vast selection of basic red tops, or you could do a red lip, red sandal or even a red scarf. This trend, hopefully, will last into the summer.

    Sheer Shirts

    This trend, while cute, can be very risque. For the most part, I only style this one on the beach because it feels a little exposing. But a sheer flowy, long-sleeve over a tank top is a cute, modest way to include this in everyday wear.

    Fancy Florals

    “Florals. For spring. Groundbreaking.” Every person remotely into fashion knows that The Devil Wears Parad ruined florals in spring. LOL. Miranda wrecked my self-confidence, but I’m happy this sweet pattern is back in style. Large motifs and roses seem the way to go this season. I’m not a big fan of florals, but if your style is more classic and feminine, this trend is sure to suit you.

    Maxi Denim

    This trend is the oddest of all to me. Maxi denim skirts are in! Especially in mid-to-dark tones. While I don’t own a denim maxi skirt, I have no doubt I could find one in the thrift store, and that’s the only way I’m purchasing one. I think styling it with a plain white t-shirt, a body suit, or anything fitted on top is the way to go. You have to balance the fullness on the bottom with form-fitting on top. Also, I would suggest wearing it with open-toed shoes, especially if you’re short like me. That would make it look less overwhelming on your frame and gives it a more casual feel. For a more elevated look, just wear heeled sandals instead.

    Check out more spring trends in your closet on my Youtube channel, and don’t forget to follow my blog for more!

    xo,

    Trudi – Her Life

     

  • Starting Early: Depression in Black Girls

    Strong Black women have historically been a symbol of stability and a pillar of perseverance in the Black community. From Beyonce to Zendaya, they have been put on pedestals to represent an ideal state of being. However, the results of this position have had far more dire consequences than expected. The Strong Black Woman (SBW) schema and its negative consequences have been propositioned as a force in sustaining poor mental health conditions in Black women. The stigma associated with seeking help, as well as mistrust of the mental health profession, has created an environment that now requires an innovative intervention to appeal to the needs of Black women. This intervention must not only aid in diminishing the negative connotations surrounding seeking help, but it must also make resources and education available to those who use it.

    The Strong Black Woman schema is based on strength, emotional restraint, and the ability to give care and comfort to those within the community, no matter the cost to mental health. Rooted in slavery, the concept stemmed from the idea that Black women are physically and emotionally more resilient than their white counterparts. At that time, it was used for survival (Ligon, 2021, page 1). Since then, it has been ingrained in the community as a necessity.

    While research outlines many benefits to adhering to this blueprint, there are also many repercussions. The most pertinent downfalls to this schema are that “for Black women, mental illness and intention to seek mental health care services are intrinsically linked to and influenced by stigma and barriers” (Ligon, 2021, page 5). According to the same research, Black people are twenty percent more likely to “experience mental health problems…[but] it is estimated that 8.6% of Blacks make use of…services” (2021, page 5). These statistics depict that Black women do not seek the mental health help they need.

    The purpose of an intervention is to diminish the depressive effects of the SBW schema through a bottom-up approach in the form of a digital application and community workshops. There have already been attempts to address Black women seeking help through podcasts such as Therapy for Black Girls. However, the podcast’s content targets women, not necessarily girls and young adults. This intervention aims to connect Black girls to therapists who match user-inputted criteria. It will educate, connect and provide general tools for dealing with depression because of the SBW schema. And it will also allow Black girls and young women a chance to participate in therapy sessions when they feel they need more help than the general application resources will provide.

    According to Ligon, “self-stigma of Seeking Help was moderately negatively related to mental health-seeking for general emotional distress and suicidal ideation, such that greater self-stigma endorsement was related to lower intentions to seek help for general mental health distress and suicidal ideation” (2021, page 60). This aligns with the Health Belief Model outlined in Module five of the lectures. The model states that help-seeking behaviour depends on a person’s perception of the seriousness of their illness and the perceived seriousness of barriers. Using a digital intervention will maintain privacy and ensure accessibility. Recent research has begun delving into the effectiveness of digital interventions on mood disorders, including depressive symptoms.

    The intervention is an educational workshop coupled with a digital application that delivers real-time therapy. The application will provide tools and resources for dealing with symptoms of depression resulting from SBW schema. It targets Black girls in the US between 14 (entering high school) and 22 (finishing college and ideally about to enter the workforce). It will be conducted in Texas because it has the highest concentration of Black people in the US. It involves static advertising of the application in the form of posters, once-per-semester workshops with only Black girls in a school, and work with teachers to help identify the traits of the SBW schema and how to approach someone experiencing it. The educational workshop will focus on introducing Black girls to safe spaces and resources in the community, as well as a walk-through of the application. The program’s first iteration will address all the targeted populations (that is, once per semester = 2 sessions per year; 9 age groups; the total number of sessions is 18; the number of participants would be 15 per age group). Then, for four years, we would track participants’ progress to see how it impacts the first years and if it helps deliver coping strategies effectively. Each three-hour workshop session will be catered to the stage of education/life the group is at. For example, at age 14 (year 1 of high school), they will focus on seeing other women surrounding them, seeing signs in themselves, learning techniques when they have recognized them, and providing access to therapists for oneon-one sessions. We will also have a speaker present at the sessions and do break-out groups for the participants to engage with each other since this is an easier way to express themselves rather than in a large group.

    There are a few barriers and enablers that may affect the feasibility of the intervention. One barrier is the community’s perception of mental health and accessing mental health resources. Another barrier is a paucity of research that targets digital applications’ success in improving mental health and limited research that points to black women-specific mental health interventions.

    Finances must also be considered. It would require volunteers or workers to help facilitate the sessions. However, it is only one workshop per semester, so the financial strain would be small in this area. Additionally, the cost to create and maintain the app and the therapists who would be involved is a barrier. These costs could be covered by potential funding from mental health grants such as ones provided through the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration. It could also be funded partially through educational grants since it takes place initially on school grounds, involves teachers and aids students. Once funding is secured, it will also be used to train those presenting at workshops and teachers to approach and address girls they believe are in need.

    One enabler is the abundance of information surrounding another historically oppressed group, the Indigenous community, including several mental health interventions and what makes them successfully implemented in different countries. The Smart Platform Policy is an example where Indigenous youths input real-life data while participating in community and self-building activities (Katapally, 2020). This app enables an intersectoral approach to health, as discussed in module four, to facilitate the empowerment of Indigenous youth (Katapally, 2020). Another enabler is up-ticking community interest. More Black women are becoming aware of the schema and its adverse effects and are working to dispel them. However, this usually occurs at college age. Because of the number of stakeholders involved and the mental barrier associated with help-seeking, feasibility is precarious. Nevertheless, this intervention has about a 70% chance of reaching its target audience and achieving its goals.

    The intended outcomes are improved mental health of Black girls of school age through giving access to resources in school that they could use outside of school and possibly teach to others around them. An unintended outcome is that students who do not identify as Black or female may feel passed over or ignored. An entire population of students goes underserved. A potential solution to barriers is to emphasize and maintain users’ privacy and data privacy. A possible solution to unintended outcomes would be to make the app available for free to all students so they can have access to the tools.

    Subscribing to the Strong Black Woman schema, and maintaining its ideas in the Black community, has recently been brought to light. To see better health outcomes for society, we must focus on uprooting deeply engrained thought patterns in Black Women.

     

    References

    Carpenter, J. (2022). GLPH 271 – Online: Global and Population Health. [Online Modules].

    Katapally, T. R. (2020). Smart Indigenous Youth: The Smart Platform Policy Solutions for Systems Integration to Address Indigenous Youth Mental Health. JMIR Pediatrics and Parenting, 3(2), DOI: 10.2196/21155

    Ligon, J. D. (2021). Being a Strong Black Woman and Willing to Seek Help [Master’s Thesis, University of Michigan-Dearborn]. ProQuest Database Service.

     

  • Courses High Schools SHOULD be Teaching

    Good morning!

    Today’s post stems from my frustration with high school, seeing how it impacts students and recognizing how ill-prepared people are when they leave. It was also inspired by an assignment in my Developmental Psychology class where we had to apply specific topics we’ve learned to our future careers.

    If you’ve been through the secondary education system in Canada, perhaps you have another perspective on this. I am an immigrant from Jamaica and I started Canadian high school in grade 11, so my lens is possibly skewed. I graduated high school about ten years ago, and when I first got to post-secondary, I was caught off guard, to say the least. I went from learning and doing well in business classes and getting into business school to failing my program after a year and a half. I chose not to go back and never to study business again.

    Cut to a few years later, and I was running two successful restaurants. One made upwards of $5 million a year and the other was one of the most successful of its franchise. So, imagine my surprise when I recognized the irony of the situation. I failed business school, but I could essentially grow and run a business once it had been established.

    My point is that high school did not prepare me for anything past those doors. It did not prepare me for college or university and it certainly did not prepare me for the working world. My heart goes out to people who aren’t afforded the in-between space that post-secondary education offers. They can’t ‘figure out what they want’ typically. Hopefully, by graduation, they’ve already discerned what they wish to go into in the future.

    This post is more like a PSA. What we teach kids have to change to reflect current times. More people are entering minimum-wage jobs out of high school to support themselves and their families. Some people don’t enjoy learning in a typical way, so college/university will never be a goal of theirs. And some kids graduate or drop out of college/university and are left to figure life out. So, why not start teaching them life skills applicable to being a good, adult human?

    Some classes would take one week, while others would take a bit more time. Here are my suggestions:

    1. The basics of conflict management – I never learned this in school at any level. In fact, I learned it as a required course for becoming a leader in the restaurant. If I weren’t going to be a leader, I would not have learned these. This is odd since most job interview questions and college applications ask you how you resolve a conflict.
    2. Taxes 101: what are they, where do they go, how to read/do them – I’m fortunate enough to do my taxes with my parents. I give them what they require and their accountant does the rest, which is awesome. However, I have no idea what they mean, where they go, why I get money back or what it would mean if I had to pay.
    3. How to make big purchases: buying a house, a car or land – I’m writing this and have no idea how to do these things. I’m college educated, about to be university-educated, and 30 years old. Without some intense googling and asking other people, I don’t know what a mortgage is, I don’t know how or why I need a realtor, and I don’t even think I could afford a car with the job I used to have.
    4. How to budget and save: After the last point, it would be safe to assume that at least a few 30-year-olds don’t know what financing is and what’s a reasonable rate. Not only can we not afford a home, even if we could, we would also not know how to pay for it! How do I save? Do I invest in an RRSP and use that money? What’s the difference between a chequing and a savings account? I don’t know!
    5. Resume’ and Interview Skills – To make a living, most people at some point will work for someone else. To get to that position, you must summarize what you’ve done and tailor it to the company you hope to work for. Unfortunately, as a child of immigrant parents, I was in my mid-20s when I first had to compose a resume. To get my first job, it was a simple online application. To be in my position, I just had to work exceptionally hard and well with other people. My interview skills were probably sub-par, but I was 17. I don’t think they expected much. But if you don’t want to work in a fast-food restaurant, how would you even get your foot in the door?
    6. Romantic Relationship Skills – I’m sure that as a parent, this is possibly the first point in your kid’s life where you may actually have a heart attack. I wouldn’t know. I have no kids yet. But I have a niece and nephew and will legally do anything to keep them from experiencing emotional hurt. Cut to this class. At least they’ll be able to start a relationship in a semi-healthy way. This class would have basic sex education but also intimacy, how to get tested, how to ask your partner to get tested, what are red flags in a relationship and how to navigate them. These are basic things that people have to find out the hard way.
    7. Abuse and how to recognize it – this one is an unfortunate necessity. It might not be physical or sexual abuse, which many people know about now. It could be emotional, financial, mental, bullying, elder abuse, etc. This is one of the classes that would come with a trigger warning (even though they don’t scientifically help), therapists and anonymous conversations.
    8. Therapy Basics – this would be a natural extension of the previous topic. It would include what therapy is, how to find a therapist, how to pay for a therapist, what you should look for in your therapist, how it works, and who needs one. It would also include the dangers of trying to be a therapist to your friend who is going through turmoil and, instead, how to handle these types of situations.
    9. How to start a business – it would be obtuse of me to ignore that it’s easy to make money online. There are some nefarious ways, no doubt. But teens can be social media moguls starting at age 14. And with their newfound success, how do they build, scale, register themselves as a business and keep themselves and their content safe? This class would teach the basics of business planning and registering your business, a natural lead-in for those who actually want to get into business school. It would also highlight the importance of each participant in a company, starting from workers to them the CEO.
    10. Voting is a part of civic duty, and unfortunately, I just didn’t understand until it was time to vote. Unless you’re interested in politics, it’s a mystery. This is why this class will teach the history of voting in Ontario, why we vote, how to vote and most importantly, how to make informed decisions.

    The final exam: As the teacher, I would create 23 real-life scenarios. The student’s job would be to apply a minimum of 3 topics you have learned to the given scenario, with evidence from the course, while introducing outside material that shows their understanding of the subject. I’m not an educator, so I wouldn’t know how to word this exactly, but they would get to present it creatively (either a presentation, an essay, a comic, etc.), and it would be open book. Since each scenario is different, there isn’t really a chance for plagiarism or cheating. And they would be allowed to get input from classmates. Because when have you ever been told as an adult that you’re not allowed to collaborate to present the best possible information?

    As of writing this post, an announcement has just been released that Technological Education is a high school graduation requirement. As I read it, I realized that it’s a digital education course, and I’m not sure how to feel about it yet. I haven’t formed an opinion because I don’t know anything about it, but it has clearly been researched and is needed. Otherwise, it wouldn’t have made it this far. [update – 03/11/23: it’s a course that also requires learning a skilled trade or technology before graduation, so that’s a step in the right direction]

    I believe that the classes I suggested above would be important, especially for young people who don’t see themselves going to post-secondary education right away. They could avoid it for a myriad of reasons, which is a problem in itself, but I think it’s the government’s and the family’s job to set them up for success. As you can see, the courses aren’t exclusive to those who won’t attend post-sec. It applies to any contributing member of a healthy society.

    If you have any suggestions, let me know in a comment below! Thank you for reading.

    Have a beautiful day 🙂

  • Three Thrifting Tips and Tricks you NEED!

    Good morning and welcome!

    Today’s post will be about my top 3 thrifting tips, so if you’re interested keep reading!

    1. Thrift during the day when no one is there! It can get very overwhelming in the thrift store already with the thought that you’ll have to look through ‘everything’ on the rack to find items you like (you don’t). So going at a time when there are fewer people in the store would be ideal. I would say during the weekday, but most people work. I would say after work, during the week.
    2. Go with a plan! I can’t tell you how many hours I could waste just browsing through the rack and being interested in what’s there. Usually, I come out with a maximum of 10 items, but I can look through hundreds if I don’t go in with a plan and a budget. This time around, I went specifically looking for things for spring. Bright colours, pastels and chunky knit cardigans were my goals. As you can see in the video, I got none of that. But it did help me narrow my search. I saw a lot of fall things and it was easy to avoid them because I knew they were absolutely NOT what I was looking for.
    3. Wear something you can try clothes on it. I usually wear leggings and a long sleeve, fitted shirt. Leggings means I don’t have to locate the change-room and it would be relatively acceptable to fit things over them, like pants or skirts. It also makes it easy to see how shoes look on your feet! I wear a long sleeve shirt for the same reason. It makes it easier to fit stuff over it and I can envision how the shirt would look against my skin tone. Also, it’s the thrift store. We’re trying on used clothes that haven’t been washed yet. Protect your skin.

    Those are my main three tips! Check out the video above on Youtube if you want to see what I got in my last thrift haul.

    Have a beautiful day 🙂